Relaxation (Labor like the PROS, Part 2)

We talk about relaxation like it’s so simple to achieve. “Just relax!” But for many of us, relaxing is not so simple.  Whether it’s due to a busy schedule or an inclination towards anxiety, figuring out how to relax can be a challenge.  Relaxing can take practice, and since it is such an important part of truly enjoying and coping with your labor, I definitely encourage students and clients to begin that practice as early in pregnancy as possible. What does it even mean to be relaxed? Is it possible to relax during labor? How do we practice relaxation?

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Relaxation is a state within your muscles AND your mind.  Each component of the PROS package is intertwined. We are better able to relax when we are in a state of comfort or pleasure, and feeling secure and loved.  (Keep reading the series to learn more about the other components!)

I spend time in each class of the Prepared for Birth series leading my students and their partners through various relaxation techniques that can be practiced further at home to prepare for use in labor.  In the first class, we enjoy a simple but effective head to toe tension release exercise.  This is something you can do on your own, or can have a partner talk you through, or you can even download tracks with guided relaxation scripts.  (What are some tracks you enjoy for relaxation? Please share them in the comments!) The purpose of starting the series with this technique is to really help folks understand exactly how their bodies feel when relaxed. How do muscles feel? What is the pace and depth of the breath when we are relaxed? What does it sound like in our thoughts once we’ve taken the time to relax? All of these bits of information are helpful in letting us know what state we can rest in to between labor contractions (and for some folks, even during contractions.)

We also practice a similar exercise with the simple addition of touch (after gaining consent). Partners can gently massage or rub the tensed muscle group to show pregnant people where to release. In labor especially, touch can be a more direct and effective way to support relaxation. You can easily practice this at home as well. Just sit face to face with a partner and have them pay attention to where you are tensing your body, and then to use their hands to help you relax that area.  Discuss with your labor support team what areas of your body tend to hold tension when you are experiencing pain or stress so that they can be on the lookout for how best to care for you. Some common tension spots in labor are the jaw and brow, shoulders, hands, and lower back and bottom. You can also talk to your team about what kind of massage pressure or touch you enjoy (as well as what to avoid!)

A final tip I like to share is that we can add in our favorite sensory pleasures (discovered from the first post in this series) whenever we practice relaxing, so that our subconscious can begin to connect

the experience of being relaxed with these sense details. For example, if you are lying on the couch practicing deep breathing, turn on your labor play list and your essential oil diffuser. Then, when you are in labor, starting that same music and scent combination will trigger an automatic relaxation response, as if your brain is saying, “Hey, I know what to do when I hear and smell that! I relax!”

Obviously, relaxation can be much more complicated than can be summarized in just a few paragraphs. For more information and support in adding relaxation techniques to your labor tool box, you can join me for an upcoming series of Prepared for Birth. You can also hire a doula to join your team for active guidance during your labor. Learn more about my classes and services here.

Keep reading the series to learn more about how our magic love hormone Oxytocin is part of this great dance!

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Pleasure: Labor Like the PROS (Part 1)

This post is the first in a 4-part series of simple ways to think about maximizing your enjoyment of labor by remembering how to do it like the “PROS”:






Pleasure Principles

pleasure (noun)- 1. a feeling of happiness, delight, or satisfaction, 2. sensual gratification: gratification of the senses, 3. recreation, relaxation, or amusement, especially as distinct from work or everyday routine

The benefits of pleasure in labor:

-pleasure sensations can help “shut the gate” to the uncomfortable sensations of labor

-many things which cause pleasure also increase oxytocin levels. Oxytocin is the hormone which drives labor progress AND brings on relaxed, loving feelings. (We’ll get into it more in the third part of the PRO series.)

-pleasurable feelings aid in the ability to relax which can greatly decrease pain.

-pleasure shifts our perspective of the sensations of labor.

Grab a pencil and paper and jot down whatever thoughts come to mind about the following questions:

What brings you pleasure? (Think about your five senses.)





Touch: (think texture and temperature)

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What makes you laugh/smile?


What other things make you feel good, happy, or satisfied?

Now, using the list you’ve made, think about what sorts of supplies you can have on hand to increase the pleasure principle in your labor.  Chocolate, candles, massage oils, essential oils, access to a bath, comfy pillows… whatever is on your list.

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While this might sound too simple to work, you may be surprised to find how effective even “the little things” can be.

For more information about the importance of pleasure during labor, and to actually practice using pleasure to cope, register for a spot in an upcoming series of Prepared for Birth.  Engaging, holistic, evidence-based childbirth education really brings together all the pieces of the puzzle.


In the meantime, stay tuned for Part Two in this series to learn more about preparing to enjoy your birth!


Crafting Ceremonies: Honoring our sacred moments



Separation or divorce.

Moving house.

Stillbirth or miscarriage.

There are so many important moments in our lives that hang heavy with emotions that may feel as if they have no outlet.  Can we find ways to mark these moments for ourselves and in community?

Our culture and/or specific religious tradition may have given us a guide for navigating some important life events: marriage, baptism, naming, burial, to name a few. But perhaps these traditional ceremonies don’t quite fill the spots in our hearts we’re longing to fill due to outdated or incomplete language, symbolism, or other factors. Is there a way to refresh these ceremonies for our own meaningful use?


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Often, in my work supporting families through the journeys of trying to conceive, pregnancy, birth, parenting, and self care, I hear people speak of their desire for a way to honor or recognize important events.  They may feel confusion or frustration or grief at the many deep emotions they’re holding around their life transitions that are not formally “recognized” by those around them.  This can be a lonely and overwhelming feeling, not to have our own significant life events be honored for what they are.

After many times of suggesting to people that they find a way to mark these moments with rituals or ceremonies, I realized it was time to help them find the tools to do just that. Towards that end, my dear friend Mandy Olivam and I have designed a workshop to provide instruction and inspiration for crafting our own ceremonies in safe community. Mandy is a writer, retreat facilitator, and mother of two.

In our time together, we will explore our feelings and goals around our sacred moments; we will work in teams to create ceremonies with meaningful parts, and will share lunch and community together.

When: Saturday, March 25, 10am-2pm

Where: Directions to workshop location will be sent directly to registrants.

Cost: Suggested $20-$50 love donation.

For more information, please contact me directly. Or to register, click HERE.


New Mamas Group-Join us!

I am so thrilled to announce that, beginning in February, I will be facilitating the weekly New Mamas group at Mama’s Hip.

This group is about the values that Mama’s Hip AND Dandelion Birth Services are built on:

-We all do better when we all do better. Building up others in strength and confidence is where it’s at!

-We need each other. Supportive communities are vital to our wellbeing.

-Each of us is full of the perfect amount of love and wisdom for the job; sometimes we just need our community to remind us and strengthen us.


The group will meet each Monday at noon with a rotating series of topics:

The New Normal How do we find our sea legs on this new journey? Is this normal? What can I do when expectations and reality don’t meet?

Nighttime Parenting How do we get more sleep? How do I cope with less sleep than I’m used to? Is our current nighttime situation the best fit for our family?

Support Systems How can I get the best support from my partner and family? Do I need extra help at this time? Who do I turn to in need?

Baby Care FAQ We may cover anything from feeding to diapering to babywearing to illness to infant development. Google is great, but face to face support from other mamas is even better!


This group is for those who are expectant or with babies up to 6 months of age. There is no cost to attend.

For more information or questions, call:

Jenny Claire 502-396-7500,

Or Mama’s Hip 502-384-8805.

Mama’s Hip is located at 1559 Bardstown Road in Louisville.


Pregnancy Connection Circle

I have been so excited to make this announcement! Dandelion Birth Services will be offering a new opportunity for pregnant women to feel empowered and centered starting in January of 2016. This isn’t a class, and it isn’t a workshop. For lack of a better name, I’m choosing to call it the Pregnancy Connection Group, because connection is what it’s truly about: connection with our spirits, bodies, and intuition; with our babies; and with one another. And, yes, I did say “our”, which brings me to the second part of my announcement! I am expecting my 5th baby in June of 2016! When I first settled into the news, I realized I felt a real need for a specific kind of connection, which is exactly why I designed this group opportunity.

I spent quite a bit of time meditating, dreaming, and writing about the question “What sort of gathering would I want to take part in?” The answer was a picture full of warmth, love, honestly, questioning, exploring, and pampering. As with each Dandelion offering, this one is truly holistic, based on the truth that we live in mind and body, heart and soul, and that we all need care and support from others.

Each week of the group will include time for:

*Physical self care (stretching, gentle exercise, massage, healthy snacks)

*Internal reflection (writing, mediation)

*Creativity (drawing, coloring, building labyrinths, sculpting)

*Connective group dialog and sharing

*Intentional connection with our babies

I think each of us feels a deep need for connection and it’s often hard to find the time, space, and safe feeling to fully engage in a meaningful way with ourselves and with those around us. My intention is to create a space for us to build community, to learn from and with one another, and to feel truly held and heard as we grow (both visibly and invisibly!) This can be a special time you set aside for yourself each week for the physical and spiritual pampering you crave and deserve. Each week of the group will be centered around a different theme to hone our focus.

Week 1: Going Inward, Birthing Outward

Week 2: Fears and Affirmations; Shadow and Light

Week 3: Vulnerability and Strength; What to surrender, what to cultivate

Week 4: Potluck (All members of the group will help contribute to the snacks and activities as driven by the previous 3 weeks work together.)

I will provide healthy snacks and beverages for each group as well as all supplies for activities and a few other treats. The cost for the 4 week session is $100. (As always, I don’t want anyone to feel they can’t take part if cost is the only barrier. Please contact me to discuss payment options, etc.) Register HERE.

If you have any questions, please contact me! I am so excited to share this journey with some special mothers. Blessings to all of you.

Added 2017, feedback from a participant in the 2016 Circle:

“It was a pure gift to be part of Jenny Claire’s pregnancy circle on my second pregnancy journey.  I was put at ease by her kind hospitality, grounded compassion, broad knowledge, and mystical wisdom. Jenny Claire personifies the many important dimensions of the demanding work of preparing for and giving birth: humility, strength, humor, reflection, careful attention, fortitude, and love.  Her skill in creating a nurturing space is multifaceted and met our diverse needs beautifully: we laughed, we cried, we shared deeply, we received and gave wholeheartedly, thanks to her effortless and authentic example… What a wonderful way to prepare for the hardest and most rewarding lifework, to find gifts within me alongside new friends and such a capable guide.” -M.O.




Letter Writing as a Tool for Healing (and Maybe Changing the System!)

I’ve been thinking a lot about the brave, beautiful folks who’ve shared their stories with me in the Birth Baggage workshops I’ve facilitated over the last year. Unexpected and unwanted events in their births left them with so many painful and crippling feelings: anger, grief, guilt, fear, betrayal, and more. With each workshop I lead, and each person whose story I’m honored to hear, I learn more about the needs of people in postpartum trauma, and continue to tweak and develop tools and processes for healing. For so many of those who tell me their stories, I notice that they have a lot of anger and betrayal and various emotions in the direction of others who played a role in the events, whether it was a nurse, a doctor, a spouse, or someone else. They often feel like they aren’t able to tell these people how they really feel out of fear that it won’t make any difference, fear of hurting the relationship, or because it just never occurred to them that they had a right to their own voice.

I recently had an “Aha!” moment when I realized that one of the tools I’ve been using for healing and connection for as long as I can remember could also be used for healing from painful birth experiences, especially the aspects surrounding other people’s roles in our stories. What’s more, this is a tool that can cause ripple effects by changing the way birth happens in our community. It’s so simple, but so powerful! I’ve been contemplating sharing this with the participants of the most recent Birth Baggage workshop, because they’ve been in my mind and heart so much, but realized I needed to spread the love further.

So, with no further ado, let’s talk about the fine (and all but lost) art of Letter Writing! Here are some ways to use this towards the purpose of healing and/or affecting change.Letter

  1. Give yourself permission to vomit out whatever arises without trying to edit it.  As Anne Lamont tells us in “Bird by Bird: On Writing and Life”, it’s incredibly important to write “shitty first drafts”. If we spend too much time worrying that the words won’t be reasonable or articulate or coherent, we don’t allow ourselves to even get started, let alone to allow the most intense feelings and thoughts to come through.  The first draft of your letter is for your eyes only.  Think of it more as a journal writing exercise than a letter at this point.  Let it take whatever form it needs to: outline, phrases, curse words, scribbles.  This is for you.  Just getting it all out on paper is very therapeutic.  Consider the paper (or computer screen) a safe space where there’s no such thing as “wrong”.
  2. Give yourself plenty of time to let the first draft “air out”.  This is not the version you’ll be sharing with anyone else.  After it’s out, you may feel lighter or more open than before.  You may feel a sense of release or relief.  Or, you may feel like you opened a door to lots more hurt, things you hadn’t shed light on previously, and now you need some time to be tender with those new sore spots.  Sometimes, we feel so empowered by the intensity of emotion we’ve released that we want to send it off right away.  This can end up causing more trouble than good! So, for now, just sit with the initial version of your letter and give it time.
  3. Consider your audience and your goal.  Are you writing to let someone know that you were hurt by their actions?  Are you hoping for an apology, a change in the way they’ll treat you moving forward, or just to explain why you’ve chosen to discontinue using their services?  Think about what sort of information this person needs to have from you, and in what form it will be most effectively received.
  4. Rewrite your letter as many times as needed with your aim in mind.  I once wrote a letter to someone who had caused me deep pain at a very traumatic time in my life.  My first draft was ten pages long, full of insults and threats, and indignation.  I broke all the “rules” of fair fighting by bringing up past events unrelated to the situation at hand, making personal attacks on the person’s character, and saying things to try to hurt her like she had hurt me.  As soon as I read that version, I knew it was just a therapeutic tool.  The second draft was much calmer, but still read like a laundry list of the intended recipient’s wrongdoings, and never really made any roads towards solutions or change.  By the third draft, I was able to say how I had been hurt, to explain how it continued to affect me and affect my relationship with the other person, and to describe what I hoped would happen so that we could repair the relationship.  The overall tone of the final version (which I eventually sent) was actually very loving, hopeful, and solution-focused.  While I knew that I couldn’t count on this person to come through with the apology and changes I needed, I had experienced profound change within myself just by speaking up for what I felt and what I needed, thereby showing myself respect and compassion.  I was also able to take ownership of my story, and responsibility for my part in the events.  So, no matter what the other person’s reaction was, I had already made things better for myself just by writing the letter.
  5. Actually send the final draft of your letter.  Get the contact information for the intended recipient or recipients.  Some good contacts may be: the nurse manager at your hospital, the office manager with your care provider’s practice, the customer service manager at your insurance company, the actual doctor or midwife who provided your care, and even the administrators of your hospital.  (As a childbirth educator at a hospital, I’ve heard many times, straight from the CEO of the hospital, how important patient feedback is to him.  He wants it all—good and bad—to come to the administration so that they can use it to know what they need to improve so they may provide the best care to every patient.  And I have seen changes made based on patient input many times.  It CAN happen.  This may not be the policy or practice at every hospital but it doesn’t hurt to try!)  Address your letter and send it!  It can be via email or on paper.  Mail it or hand deliver it.  Just be sure to do your story and your feelings justice by sharing what needs to be shared.

I have heard hundreds of birth stories from people who’ve been hurt in very real (physical and emotional) ways by care providers and professionals who acted in a disrespectful or even downright cruel manner. People whose birth outcomes and even lifelong health were affected by providers practicing based on convenience, habit, or routine rather than on what was actually safest and healthiest for the birthing parents. So many of these folks don’t ever speak up about what has happened to them. Many because they’re in the thick of caring for their families while healing their bodies, too busy in the reality of the immediate postpartum period. Later, they may choose not to communicate their stories because they feel too much time has passed for it to count. Or, they may feel they don’t have the right to speak up after so many people have told them, “Why are you still upset about your birth? You have a healthy baby and that’s all that matters.”

If even a tenth of the people who had unsatisfactory or traumatic birth experiences took the time to contact their care providers, nurse managers, hospital administrators, and anyone else involved in the chain of command, eventually the message would be too loud to ignore. Our birth experiences and our feelings around them are important. By speaking up for what we feel and need, we show ourselves respect, and may also pave the way for change in the system. What if your letter could make a difference in how another birthing person is treated? What if your letter could change a policy or a procedure? What if your letter could change how you look at your experience by empowering you and opening the door to healing?

How will you know if you don’t try?

Start with a shitty first draft.

(For further inspiration for writing your letter, check out this sample written regarding a traumatic incident during a birth. http://birthmonopoly.com/obletter/)



Unpacking your birth baggage-NEW workshop format

I am so thrilled to be able to share with you that I will be offering the Unpacking Your Birth Baggage workshop this spring with a whole new format.  While the feedback from past workshops was quite positive, I never liked the way our good work together was interrupted by time constraints when it was held over the course of two sessions a week apart.  So, I have revamped the format and tweaked the workshop plan to be held on one full Saturday.  We’ll have a beautiful, intimate space in which to share or time together; a break mid-way for lunch and community building; and a more relaxed schedule to open up room in our hearts and minds for exploration and healing.  The goals of the workshop remain, with some new ones being added.  What we’ll do together includes:

-Delving into the buried feelings and beliefs about birth that cause us trauma and grief, and finding ways to dig them out in order to make room for empowering and healing truths;

-Learning tools and practices for increasing self-love;

-Using art, visualization, affirmations, and more to increase our inner peace and joy; and,

-Building safe space with other women who understand that your birth and your feelings about it really matter.


This workshop is for you if you have had a birth experience that left you with grief, trauma, guilt, or any other painful reactions.

Registration is limited to allow for a safe, intimate setting.  Feel free to contact me if you have more questions about the workshop.  I am so excited to be sharing this process with a new group of mothers!

The details:

When: Saturday, March 21, 2015 10:00 am-4:00 pm

Where: Full Circle Holistic Women’s Health-care, Bardstown Road

Cost: $75, includes a delicious vegetarian lunch and all supplies (please bring your own journal or notebook)

Register here

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Baby’s First Bath: Who, When, and Where?

In the discussion of what interventions and procedures may be offered for your baby postpartum, the first bath rarely makes the list.  You may wonder why it should!  A bath is perfectly harmless, right?  Could it really be considered an intervention?

If an intervention is defined as anything that intervenes in the continuous physiological process of labor, birth, and breastfeeding, then the in-hospital bath certainly qualifies as one.

Ultimately, the “burden of proof” for any intervention should lie on the intervention itself.  Are there any real benefits to a first bath being given in the hospital by a stranger?  If so, do these benefits outweigh the risks?  Rather than framing the discussion around risks of an in-hospital bath, though, let’s look at some of the wonderful benefits of delaying your newborn’s first bath, which include:

The Magic of Vernix At birth, your baby’s skin will be coated with a white, waxy or cheesy substance called vernix.  Depending on how many weeks your baby gestated, there may be a little or a lot of vernix on the skin.  Vernix provides protection in the womb from contact with the amniotic fluid (so that baby’s skin won’t wrinkle like ours does after a long bath).  Vernix also provides antibacterial protection, a true benefit in a hospital setting.  Vigorous scrubbing and bathing can remove this protective layer.  Rather than washing this natural barrier away, you can massage it into baby’s skin like lotion.

Breastfeeding Instincts Baby uses the smell of amniotic fluid on his or her hands to help initiate breastfeeding.  You may notice your baby nuzzles her hands against her nose as a cue that she is ready to nurse.  Washing away the natural smells on the baby’s skin will also get in the way of the signals provided by these smells which kick start instinctual breastfeeding and bonding processes.


Together is Best for Mom and Baby Mother and baby both benefit from uninterrupted skin-to-skin contact for the first several days after birth.  This closeness helps with regulating temperature, heart rate, and stress hormones, as well as increasing bonding hormones, and helping to establish mom’s milk supply. Baby’s other parent is the next best habitat when mom needs a break; familiar sounds and smells are comforting and calming to baby.  Removing baby from the loving arms of his parents for a bath interrupts this bonding time.

First Bath is a Lovely Ritual Giving baby her first bath is a sweet privilege that parents can enjoy when they are ready.  Bath time can be a good way to transition to a change in setting once the family leaves the hospital and settles at home.  Or, it can wait until days later when intuition says it’s time.

Who will give your baby his or her first bath?  When and where will it occur?  This choice is up to you!


I’m Positive! (How to use affirmations for pregnancy, labor, and beyond)



Affirmations and visualizations are proven ways to affect thoughts and beliefs (which, in turn, affect actions and outcomes). These techniques aren’t just for “crunchy, new-age types”; athletes, executives, spiritual leaders, and many others have benefited from practicing positivity for ages. These are some useful tools to have in your kit, not just for pregnancy and birth, but in any life situation for which you desire confidence and positivity. And, best of all, there are no negative side effects! Here are some tips and points to remember for enacting these simple techniques.

*Is there a certain worry or concern which seems stuck in your head and is holding you back from feeling confident and free? Turn that negative thought on its head and make it into a positive affirmation. For example, if I am feeling very worried that I won’t know how to be a good parent, I might use the affirmation: “I am the perfect parent for my child.”

*Creating affirmations requires POSITIVE NOW LANGUAGE. Notice the affirmation above is in the present tense and framed in the positive, (rather than “I am not going to mess up as a parent.”) Our brains latch on to the negatives in a sentence, giving the opposite results we desire. And if we’re using a future tense, the desired outcome will always be ahead of us, just out of reach.

*Many of us react more intuitively to images than words. If you can add a picture or image to your affirmation (even a simple symbol, doodle, or stick figure), it can make it easier for your mind to connect  with the positive thought.

*Sometimes we become discouraged when working with affirmations because we have a hard time truly believing in the positive statement. Start by sitting with your affirmation and envisioning the positive outcome. How does it feel in my physical body if this statement is absolutely true? Focus on that feeling and let it wash over you.  Each time you read the affirmation, bring yourself back into that feeling and the good way your body reacts to it.

* Place your affirmations/images in places where you’ll see them often throughout the day: on your bathroom mirror, your car dashboard, or the refrigerator door, for example.

*Try writing each affirmation ten to twenty times a day. Repetition and writing are both powerful methods for auto-suggestion.

*It can also be helpful to make a recording of your own voice or of a loved one reading your affirmations and then listen to them when your mind is relaxed such as when you’re driving or falling asleep.

*Positive visualization is another form of affirmation. For this technique, spend time visualizing your dream labor and birth scenario in as much detail as possible. Add plenty of sensory input to your visualization. Feel warm water on your skin, the smell of lavender massage oil, the sound of your favorite relaxing music in each moment of your imagined story. You can add some of these details in “real life” as you visualize in order to strengthen the association, and then later use these same relaxing sensations in your real labor experience to increase pleasure sensations and to “cue” positivity. Your visualization story can also be written or recorded.

During pregnancy, heart and mind are often “open doors”. Take care that you only let in positive, empowering thoughts and feelings at this time. The choice of what you let through the door is yours.


Just like many other techniques that are useful to us in labor and birth, these tools can continue to serve you in other areas of life beyond this time.  This is a wonderful opportunity to learn these skills for use on your continued parenting journey.

Check out my other posts on this blog to see specific affirmation ideas!  Please contact me if you would like to purchase your own set of beautiful laminated affirmation cards for your own enjoyment or to give as a special gift to an expectant friend!

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Packing Your Hospital Birth Bag

One of the questions I am asked most often is, “What should I pack to take to the hospital?”

I have heard many great suggestions from students and clients about the things they’ve found most useful to have in their hospital bags. I have also heard often that many mothers find they’ve “overpacked”, not using half of the things in their bags. In general, my response to the question of what to pack is, “Don’t stress about it. You can always ask the hospital staff for stuff you forget or send someone home to pick things up after baby arrives.”


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However, those notorious nesting instincts make many of us feel the urge to have a definitive list to check off in order to feel truly prepared.

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So, without further ado, here is “The List”. Please feel free to add your own necessities in the comments section!

-Any toiletries you need for your own comfort. (Face cleaner and moisturizer, lotion, shampoo, cosmetics, hairbrush, toothbrush, toothpaste, deoderant)

-Lip balm (this gets its own spot on the list because it can also be used as a labor comfort device!)

-Bed pillows in bright cases which won’t be confused with the white hospital pillows

-Medications and supplements

-Robe, sweater, or sweatshirt

-Slippers/slipper socks/socks

-Pajamas with easy breastfeeding access or other comfortable clothes such as yoga pants and nursing camisoles

-Breastfeeding support pillow (I love the My Brest Friend pillow for nursing support. The Boppy isn’t as sturdy for this use but it does make a great pillow for sitting on to avoid pressure on sore bottoms after birth.)

-Any labor coping tools you plan to use. This could include massage tools, tennis balls, rice sock, yoga ball, massage lotion, affirmation cards, focal point, meditation mandalas, battery-powered “candles”, essential oils and diffusers, music players or speakers, etc.

-Snacks and beverages for labor and postpartum (Your hospital “doesn’t allow” eating and drinking during labor, you say? Check out this article for evidence-based information on making a choice about if this is a beneficial policy for your needs.)

-Camera, plus extra batteries or charger

-Phone and/or laptop chargers

-A couple of changes of clothes for baby (including something special for photos if these will be taken in the hospital)

-An outfit for you to wear home from the hospital (Maternity clothes are still the best option for fit and comfort immediately postpartum.)

-Breast soothers (Soothies or other brand) and nipple ointment (lanolin and coconut oil are both popular choices.)

-A white noise machine or app to drown out some of the constant noise of the hospital.

-An empty duffel bag in which to carry home supplies and gifts you receive while in the hospital.

Hospitals generally provide many of the care items you will need for immediate postpartum comfort including witch hazel pads for soothing hemorrhoids, ice packs, large pads and mesh underpants, stool softener pills, cooling spray for a sore perineum, perineal wash bottles, etc. You can also take many of these things home with you; just ask your nurses what’s available.

Packing for Partners

Partners will want to pack their own bags for comfort during labor and the postpartum stay. This should include many of the same items listed above, with the obvious deletions! A button down shirt that can be worn during skin to skin time with baby is also nice to have in the bag. They may also find it handy to have the handbook from your childbirth education class and/or a copy of The Birth Partner by Penny Simkin.  Or, this great cheat sheet.

I would love to hear from you if there are other “must haves” for the bag. What were the things you were glad to have on hand? Were there items you found just took up space?